I am not here to be your friend!!

I am not here to be your friend. For most of you, your friends are the ones who will tell you

“It’s ok to have just one.”

“Come on, live a little.”

“You look a little too thin.”

“I think you’re losing too much weight.”

“Are you allowed to enjoy anything anymore?”

“You’re really not as much fun since you quit going out drinking with us and partying on the weekends.”

“Let’s not go to the seminar, Margaritas are only .99 tonight.”

“I don’t care what your trainer says, you should never commit to something like that.”

“It sounds to me like this whole sugar thing is just stupid and unreasonable.”

“What about your kids? Are you not allowed to let your kids enjoy their childhood?”

Every statement above is a real statement that has been said to some of our bootcamp students and they have passed on to me. 

I am not here to be your friend.

I am here to be the person who whispers in your ear “You can do 2 more, trust me.” I am here to take you from doing 13 pushups to doing 73 (woo hoo, Heather) in one month’s time. I am here to make you believe you can do things you never thought possible. I am here to be the little voice you hear in your head when you are tempted to cheat, say to you “Don’t do it, you are doing so good. Don’t blow it.” I am here to be the little voice you here in your head tell you to get out of your warm bed and join the group to run the butte even though it is snowing. I am here to teach to obtain your true achievement and potential. I am here to teach you to stand up to your unsupportive husband and make him eat his cookies in his car because you “will not allow that “CRACK” in this house anymore.” I am here to encourage you when you get frustrated about doing the right thing. I am here to tell you milk is still sugar-water when you attempt to justify it. I am here to talk you out of doing the bad things in your life that you know in your heart are wrong.  I am here to tell you that I know it is difficult- It is NOT impossible.

I am not here to be your friend. I will motivate you, I will push you, I will encourage you, I will make you swear at me, I will make you angry with me, I will make you frustrated, I will make you better. If after all that, when you have accomplished your task at hand and you are truly happy with the way you look and feel, if after all that you want to be friends, so be it; but not now. For now we have a job to do and I will see you next class.

Remember, it is difficult-not impossible. You have plenty of people in your life that will enable you and tell you it’s ok to cheat. You need at least one person in your life that truly wants the best for you. Since I want the best FOR you, I will expect the best FROM you. But remember, it all comes from love.

Have fun and enjoy the process,

Victor